How to change your life in 7 Step, I did it, so can you.
Life has so much to offer at the same time so much challenges in our way too. But the real difference between people is that some use the challenges to push them to be the best and greater version of themselves.
Challenges are great teachers and they are part of our life experiences. You can do nothing about that but to be miserable is your choice.
You have the power to chose either to live as a victim and crumble under the challenges or be a survivor and write your own life story.
In 2008 my entire life story changed. In space of 3 years, I have lost my grandma, my father, two elder brothers and a sister. I became very depressed, I lost my sense of direction, I lost the will to live. I wanted to end all the suffering by taking my life as my older brother did.
THE ESTRANGER THING THAT HAPPENED TO ME
But then something estrange happened when I was at brink of losing it all.
This thing happened me I was walking passing through a playground. I had seen a piles of abandon books by the corner of the street. One book jumped off my face I saw it clearer than the rest. I don’t know if I found the book or it found me.
It is Man’s Search for Meaning. It is a 1946 book by Viktor Frankl which I could not put it down when I started reading it.
Through my reading, I later realised that after my horrific life event I was trying to be someone else and not myself. I became victim under the challenges.
I concluded after few years of therapy and hours of personal development – that if Nelson Mandela can come from the darkest of places, to change history, then so can I.
Now I want to share with you the 7 super simple, easy to implement steps that can change your life story.
1. CHANGE YOUR WORLD
Do you know this saying tell me who is your friend and I will tell you who you are. Or maybe I just translated straight from French anyway you get my point. We are social people and we always want to hang around other human being. The downside of that the people we are all the time with will transfer to you their belief and mindset without you been aware of it. Next thing you talk and behaving like them. Be selective, cross out those who influencing you negatively, those who are toxic and bring you down. Along with those who always moaning and complain see life only in a gloomy scenario.
Don’t be alarmed that your list of people is short, the whole point is to remove negativity to allow a room for positivity.
It is sound harsh but you need to move forward to be able to enjoy what life has to offer my friend.
Taken difficult decision that one of first rule of leadership and success. I say to you welcome to the world of leaders.
2. BECOME A TEACHER OF LIFE
You cannot teach if you do not know the subject. Right? When I made the decision to change my life story I decided to inspire people to think that regardless what is happening right now in your life there is always way out. I needed to learn how to turn my life around by reading book, listening to audio, reading blogs. on top of that I read on book Jesus, Muhammed, Gandhi, Buddha, Napoleon Hill my favourite book was Success Through Positive Mental Attitude by Napoleon Hill and Clement W Stone. You might be very busy now with work 9 to 5. You might have young family look after or you just a lazy being but let me telling you still have plenty of time to carve out at least an hour a day to read or to listen or to watch an educational material which will help you toward being a master of your life challenges. Were you ever stuck at traffic or long waits at appointments and get annoyed and started playing game on your phone Instead of doing something that will change the course of your life for the better. Your life story will only change when you understand that your experience is only tool to push forward to greatness for that you need some new inputs and a few fresh ideas. Audio are the quickest way to get these free sources of inspiration.
What I have done then I had subscription for audible so that I can download dozen audiobook every month. So my playlist was full of audiobook on personal development.
After learning and understanding the meanings of the challenges in your life go teach other how to change their life story. Trust me is very power.
3. BECOME AN EXPERT BY EXPERIENCE
I have cofounded a Network of torture survivors called Survivors Speak OUT.
During 2011 when I went through a change in my life story, I started by doing talks at University, School, colleges and also faith group sharing my life stories not as testimonies but as expertise I am expert by experience. Couple of year later I started speak at VIP platforms such as UN, with People like Angelina Jolie, UK Foreign Secretary and traveling around the world to speak for the plight of torture survivors. You can google my name you will see lot of material there. I am not bragging.
Building your name among the expert will give you self-esteem, self-confident and self-love. When I began sharing my message with the world, it helped me refine my thoughts and ideas. I also got to engage with lots of other people who shared their wisdom with me for free because I had given them free content. To this day I have contributed to lot of policies changes around the world that hopefully will help vulnerable people.
Before I changed my life story, I was scared to put my name out with the fear of persecution and danger for my family and I was worried I’d be judged or not good enough.
The story of your life is best told by you because you knows better than you. Pick a the side of your stories you are comfortable to share with world and go for it. Don’t hold back, be vulnerable and tell stories. This will alter the course of your life.
4. BECOME A HERO
Being a hero doesn’t mean you need wear a fancy costume and flying to save people like what Hollywood depict in the film. Chose a cause, something you feel passionate about and you want to improve the situation. Either that in term Rights, helping elder or young people, or helping the planet. Just by trying to make people feel that somebody cares it will make a use difference in their lives and yours as well trust me.
It was an easy decision for me to chose which cause because I am a refugee I started helping to address the flaw in the refugees policy so to give chance for people to improve their lives.
I just didn’t stop with refugee I also set up helping young people in my neighbourhood by setting up a music studio in my flat. I never done music before but those young boys and girls love it. That is the most important thing for me.
Even if you impact only one person, that one person could become the next Mother Teresa. I’ve been. So experiment the act of giving. Watch it transform the story of your life!
5. DON’T BECOME A PUNCHING BACK AND REJECT NEGATIVE TALK
If your mate want to come to you and complain how the world is going to the drain, and nothing good is happening and this and that? Say No thanks mate.
If Lunch lady wants to tell you how she hate the weather and when last time she has seen the sun? Sorry, I am not qualified to speak about weather and you got enough to think about rainbow already.
These meaningless, negative conversations are like virus attacking your system stop them to get into you. Negative people love to complain yet they forget how lucky they are to have even been born.
If someone starts a conversation with you and it’s not serving you, politely excuse yourself and make something up if you have to.
Just escape like you’re true Jedi.
Take control of your time and energy walking away from negative conversations.
6. SWITCH WAY DOWN YOUR MEDIA CONSUMPTION
Be very selective what you let in through your ears, your eyes and month. Take your TV and put it in the closet or donate to a charity shop. Replace your daily habits of watching the news with audiobooks or podcasts or books or documentary about life. What you get from those endless TV shows apart from you making them money and you get anxiety in exchange so use the time to write your stories instead.
Disconnect from that scammers and consume media that educates and transforms your life story”
Watch a documentary on nature or successful people how they made it or watch movies on true life stories, watch talk show such as of Oprah’s online show that interviews extraordinary.
Just stop consuming endless amounts of information that doesn’t serve you. Focus is key and media will distract it if you don’t make the right decision.
Watch videos in YouTube like of life success with Great and also Power Within I nowadays get my inspiration from their message subscribe to them too.
7. NOBODY IS BORN WISE
Nobody know or could predict the future. Don’t waste lot of time to figure out a solution. You don’t know the answer ask people or go to google or forum. Someone somewhere might had had the issue before and come up with a solution. No matter how much you plan, you’ll never predict correctly the outcome of every challenge.
So if you don’t know, and if the universe can’t tell you, and your mentors can’t tell you, then don’t worry. Worrying is not going to get you anywhere. Stop getting lost in the desert with no water and take a drink from the fountain of faith. Faith that says: I am the master of faith, the captain of my soul.
Basically believe in yourself.
Life can be full of disappointment or packed with happiness. The life story is yours to write so get the pen out and make a decision which one will be true for you.
Go all out. Be you. Change the world
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