Social Anxiety Disorder (social phobia) is the third largest mental health care problem in the world today.
Experiencing social anxiety disorder is like living in war zone you don’t know which way the bullet will come from. you are on edge all the time. I believe my social anxiety was cause by my childhood experience of abuse, war, living in a refugee camp and life in exile. When I was plunged into the depressing depths of social anxiety or social phobia, I struggled to rationalised some simple fact, I was lost, I was alone, I was hurt and I was bitter.
Even seeing a security van can set me off in that cycle of worry and depression.
WHAT IS SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER?
Here is my definition of social anxiety disorder is like everything and everybody just against you. The little things that people do like the way they look at you, their tone of voice when they speak to you, some of their gesture can push you into a state of insecurity, self-hating ideas that cause you fall back into that inner void.
Contrary to common beliefs, people with social anxiety still want to make friends, be included in groups, and be involved and engaged in social interactions. It is fear or let anxiety that holds us back. I knew that my anxiety is irrational, is not based on fact, and does not make rational sense. Nevertheless, thoughts and feelings of anxiety persist and are chronic.
I know all these because I have been there too. But today, I am here to help you, give you a helping hand, and show you that it is actually possible to work through this problem with complete success.
HOW TO OVERCOMING SOCIAL ANXIETY
These methods worked for me but I have no way of giving you 100% guarantee that it will for you as it did for me because we are all different and react differently.
But please take what I share here with care. This is not those inexpensive throw-away feel-good motivational messages here – this is hard-earned, blood-and-sweat, tried and tested ways which I offer to you openly:
1. WORK ON EVOLVING WITHIN.
When I experienced social anxiety I focused a lot on establishing my look: I dress well so that I can be more attracting to others, I have learned about different manner and body language. But then I realised all of these change are on the external and still not making me feel at ease. The real changes I need it was in my inner world. So I start by changing my inner world first, by changing my inner thoughts, perceptions and beliefs. That was the beginning of my real recovery.
So set yourself in the path self-awareness, Self-exploration, Self-discovery, Self-understanding, Self-love. I have a blog How to turn low self-esteem to self-love I hope you will find it useful to learn how to love yourself
2. UNDERSTAND, ACCEPT AND LOVE YOUR IMPERFECTION.
There is not two people like you out there. I was watching video by R Cuda. He said I am just paraphrase it here. There are good people as well there are bad people. We all have strength and weaknesses. So basically there is not perfect person we all have flaws.
Checking out whatever you dislike about yourself likewise whatever you love about yourself (no matter how little). Maybe you like your sense of humour, creative skills, compassion or other quality or skill? I use a self-love journal, in which I write my stuffs in there and rewarding myself every time I am successful in something, and also add to self love journal. I also try to be reflective, also recite daily positive affirmations, and by praying or meditating whatever is your belief. You can check Life Success with Greta channel you will find tone of positive affirmation to help you.
3. YOU ARE JUST AS WORTHY AND VALUABLE AS EVERYONE ELSE.
One of our biggest problem is self worth. we feel we are not worthy enough to be able to mix with others. I had to recognise that I am simply as deserving and important as anyone walking right now in this planet no matter who they are, how pretty they are, how popular they are, or how rich they are. We are all equal. I am simply as worthy and important as the Queen of England, I am simply as deserving and important as Denzel Washington.
In this video The Two Most Powerful Words In The Universe – I am by Power Within I quote NOBODY CAN SAY I AM FOR YOU. That is really profound. To truly comprehend the power of I am it is empowering.
4. EXPOSE YOURSELF TO SITUATIONS THAT MAKE YOU UNCOMFORTABLE.
When I just moved in the UK I knew that if I have to make life here I had to face my worries and go into crowded space I started going to place like Oxford Circus if You have been to London and gone shopping in Oxford Circus you will understand what that place is for somebody who suffer from social anxiety. Slowly exposing myself to uncomfortable situations or people is vital. And also Every time I do that I was rewarded with a sense of pride.
Don’t be the barrier for your happiness by blocking your chance of personal development. Go out and face the world with confident. Like the saying goes fake it till you make it.
5. HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU IS A REFLECTION OF THEM NOT YOU.
If somebody is judgemental or unkind to you, that shouldn’t define you it is rather them, basically that show how they feel about themselves and they want to project that onto you. Say no no. The truth is that, people that hate themselves treat others with hatred, people that are full of insecurity always judge others harshly. Learning to see beyond a person’s behaviour into their hidden pain can help you immensely in this regard.
That is what it is.
How has this article helped or inspired you? Do you have any recommendations or stories to share about overcoming social anxiety?
Resources for Social Anxiety:
- Social anxiety (social phobia) – NHS.UK
- Social Anxiety Fact Sheet | Social Anxiety Association
- Social Anxiety UK
- I Hate Being Around People. Do I Have Social Anxiety Disorder?
- Social anxiety – Wikipedia
Thanks might God bless you.
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